Thursday, July 13, 2017

LIVING IN THE MOMENT

UPDATING MY FACEBOOK

If you have been reading my daily "what's up" or following my blog, you know that I am preparing to take a 6 week hiatus and driving from here to B'ham, Tallahassee, and Atlanta by myself with several stops in between.

What has happened is that I am involved in preparing to go, de-cluttering, reconnecting with people I really want to spend at least a few hours with, keeping up with my writing, reading, resting, going to yoga classes, running errands, just get thru some of my bucket list each day. I am enjoying the preparation. The fact of the matter is, I am living in the moment because there is no guarantee that I will still be alive the next moment. My attitude is to love what I am doing now, or stop doing it. By calling my friends and asking if I can spend the night with them, either it works or it doesn't. So far, they are as excited as I am about my visit. 

The most important thing has been my decision to stop teaching classes here. I plan to sub at the studios who welcome me. I love to teach and it does not have to be asanas. 
The purpose of this trip is to write my memoirs in the form of a small book and the people I am spending the most time with are also good writers and willing to sit and create with me. Having a good friend in the room who happens to love to write is such a bonus. 
I am exploring ways of becoming a lecturer on "growing older and loving it". It is my job to be a good example. So staying healthy and happy are very important. 
If you are a member of a group that would be interested in this subject, I am available to speak at one of your meetings. Preferably near where I live. Near Oakland Park and University in Sunrise.  I study near Aventura and on Normandy Isle. The best way to reach me is to call me at 786-253-3060 and leave your # and times when I can reach you. (Speak slowly, as I am hard of hearing)
I am hoping to find a kind soul who will be my computer whiz and manage the online part. (I am electronically challanged.)

July 13, 2017
Dena Glazer












Monday, June 26, 2017

HOW TO LIVE ALONE AND ENJOY IT


HOW TO LIVE ALONE AND ENJOY IT
by Dena Glazer

When I was a young mother, I and my family moved to Miami. I was a full time Mom with 3 small children, a dog, a husband and a house to run. My aunt and uncle lived in a beach-front high rise condo as did many of  their friends, mostly widows.  It was then that I began to think of my own later years,  about living alone. What I observed was that living alone in a generic high rise was NOT where I wanted to be when I was older.  And I was scared to live alone. It was totally foreign to me. Not something to think about then.

I remember, once, when my Mother was in her 80's, asking her why she would not go out with me more.  She took a moment, and then said that she really enjoyed staying home. She was content to stay put. That was where she wanted to be. She had her routines, many friends and was loved by all.

Now, in my jubilee year, I can appreciate that feeling of being content to stay at home and not HAVE to rush from place to place, or thing to thing.

Since the middle 1970's, I have lived alone, had roommates, rented rooms in other people’s houses, owned my own houses, and even house-sat. For the most part, I have enjoyed the journey. That is not to say that there is no strife, stress, or sadness along the road. Life happens!

Being a very visual person, I have always needed to make my living space reflect a feeling of beauty and peace. When I was in massage school in the 80's, we had to write a description of where we would like to live. I wrote about having a house with high ceilings, a fireplace, dark wood floors, lots of light, a front porch with a porch swing, and everywhere you looked, you would see beauty. In the early 90's, I moved into an old Victorian house with those exact characteristics. I had totally forgotten about writing this until one day, cleaning my files, I found the notebook with that passage in it. (You CAN manifest what you want, or don’t want, when you are very clear in your heart and stop obsessing about it.)  It comes in its own time. Have patience.

These are a few of the things have worked for me and a few suggestions for things that may work for you.

1. The first thing I do when living alone is to literally put around me only the things that have meaning for me and that make me feel good. I create a space where I can be to feel comforted.

2.  I treat myself as company. I love to cook, so I make enough for 2 or more meals and invite a friend over to share. Or, if no one is around, I freeze it for another day or, perhaps, change it for a slightly different taste tomorrow.  If you happen not to cook, take-out works well for company and pot lucks are popular and you can invite people of your choice.

3. I always prepare a place to eat. I sit down, appreciate the look and aroma of the food before I taste it; savor it. I put candles or ambient lighting on, maybe soft music. After all, aren’t I the most important person here? I like to look out at the nature  I can see from my dining table while I eat. Sometimes, I read a book. It is my quiet time.

4.  When I find myself lazing around at (3) in the afternoon, maybe a little depressed, I get dressed and take a walk. I have found that exercise makes me feel better, and doing something, even going grocery shopping, brings opportunities to expand my horizon and always raises my spirits.

5. Becoming active in my synagogue has evolved into a social meeting place for me as well as providing intellectual stimulation and spiritual comfort.

6.  If a friend is not available and there is an event or a movie I want to go to, I go alone. I have met some of the most interesting people that way. I am not distracted by the person I am with and therefore have more energy to look outward. Remember that the word, alone, when broken apart is all one.

7.  If you are fortunate enough to not have to work, find a hobby or an organization to enjoy and become active in it. I work and volunteer. Both are rewarding.

8. I do not have pets, but if you want, get a pet. They are very comforting. One of my friends just got herself a dog she is training to be a therapy dog. It also makes her walk a lot and her arthritic hips are feeling better as a result.

9. I have young friends. (as well as friends of all ages) There is much to learn from them, too. They challenge my mind, and, surprisingly, genuinely listen and revere me as well.

10. You might volunteer some time helping others. If you are stuck at home, use your phone or computer. There is always a need for your particular expertise and wisdom.

11. If you don’t like your life, change it. Only you can make that decision. There is someone out there waiting to either help you or waiting for your help. It is up to you to scope it out. Remember, the result is not as important as the journey.

12. Lastly, I try and laugh a lot. Remember to smile. (frowning uses more muscles than smiling.)

I was in a class last week and after class, this young (in his 50's) man made it a point to approach me. He had been sitting across from me. He said that he was so taken with my smile, it made his day. Well, it certainly made my day, and all I did was be me.

Have a happy life, every moment of it you can.

Dena Glazer is a Certified Iyengar Yoga Teacher, a motivational speaker, and a role model for those younger than she. She is still active in teaching yoga and hopes to continue for 20 or more years. Visit her at her website, GentleYogaForStiffBodies.com.

If you know anyone, yourself, a relative or friend who might benefit from this article. Please send it on to them. I am a living example of an older senior who, I am often told, 'you are an inspiration'. If you want to learn more, please contact me @ denabg134 @gmail.com


Friday, June 2, 2017

THOUGHTS ON AGING

Recently I have decided to change my emphasis from teaching yoga as my main profession to sharing my actions by encouraging whomever is interested, and particularly, the baby boomers, to embrace the journey of aging. This has come about by having many people approach me to tell me that I am an inspiration for them. True, most are dedicated yoga practitioners who know how important taking care of our physical and mental health is.

Aging is inevitable, but getting older is a mind-set.

So the question is, how do we reap the benefits of a long life without suffering the consequences of an aging body?

Now, I know you are saying that's easier said than done. Especially when you look in the mirror and see sagging, wrinkled skin, dark spots and diminished muscle mass. Harder still when you feel the aches and pains that seem to pop up out of nowhere.

But here's the good news. No matter how old you are, or how sedentary you've been, it's never too late to amend it. You will have to dedicate yourself to working hard and daily to regain what you have lost.

In my case, at 83 and after several physical injuries, I am better and stronger than I was 40 years ago.
My passion has been Iyengar yoga and with 36 years of long, uninterrupted practice and study, it has changed my posture, my flexibility, my strength and my outlook. Sure, it's true that I cannot do some of the things I could 10 years ago, but my body is strong and mostly pain free, And, even more important, my mind is calm, content, happy and still sharp,

Below is a list of what I have compiled to be of importance. If I have left out something, please feel free to add it to your list.

#  1 - Attitude is everything. 
    2 - Let go of things, thoughts, even people that keep you in the past or clutter up your space
          and mind.
     3 - Live in the moment. It is the only one you have now.
     4 - Forgive yourself so that you can love yourself.
     5 - Be grateful for all you can still do.
     6 - The glass is always full. It only changes shape. Sometimes it is large and sometimes it is                     small. You are 100% alive until you are 100% dead.
     7 - Do what you love to do. Stop doing what does not fulfill you.
     8 - Forgive those you have issues with. Find the good in them.
     9 - Leave the rest of this life having done the things that have enriched others and you.
   10 - Never stop learning, sharing, seeking. 

If you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, and if you are ready to change your life, get in touch with me and let's get you back on a road to a healthy and peaceful life.

denabg134@gmail.com


     
     

Thursday, June 23, 2016

Diagonal Breathing


DIAGONAL BREATHING

Recently I have been re-reading some of my books and periodicals. I came across a quote that suggested diagonal breathing for people with scoliosis. I tried this and found that it brought a whole new perspective of breathing to my practice of twists.

While doing bharadvajasana on a chair, after using normal breathing to turn to the right, I paused and breathed from the lower left lung area into the upper right lung area (collarbone) and was able to turn slightly more. Then, in exhaling, released the breath from the lower left ribs to the upper right collarbone. All of this is done as in pranayama, without effort. Then did the other side.

Remember to keep the hips grounded and level so the spine can elongate upwards. Be sure to keep the nose in line with the mid sternum as you turn. To come out of the pose, move as slowly and with as much care as you did in going into the pose. "The work goes into the preparation, not into the pose".

This is not to be taught to students until they have understood, thru instruction and practice, ujjayi pranayama. 

Dena Glazer
June, 2017



Sunday, May 15, 2016

A TRIBUTE TO MY DEAR FRIEND, MOSHE

It has been 5 months since I last physically spoke with Moshe. He passed away in early December of 2015. I had spoken with him only 2 days before he died. We had, as usual, a most satisfying dialogue. We both knew this was our good-by talk. First of all, he laughed when I asked him if he minded my calling. We used to talk to each other every day. Occasionally a day or 2 might pass with only voice mail connecting us. I said what I wanted to relay to him and he accepted it.
I really miss our talks. He was so un-judgemental and always understood exactly what I was talking about. We often shared our inner most thoughts (mostly mine about my children and grandchildren). Even though he did not have blood children, he was very close to his late wife's family and, having met mine, knew what I was talking about.
He chose me to accompany him on his last trip to
Israel. How blessed I was.  We went in December, 2012. We stayed on 3 different kabbutz with either his family or dear friends. He had migrated to Israel from Germany with his mother and 2 sisters in 1929. He grew up to become the National Music maestro of Palestine. While we were there, he was honored on National TV by replaying an opera he had written and conducted many years before. I have wonderful pictures and memories of a place I never expected to see.
I really miss him and those talks. Sometimes, I talk to him anyway. He is always in my heart.
I fantasize that I will meet another living person with whom I can confide in and share. In the meantime, I keep practicing being my own confidant. 
May you all be blessed with someone in your life that teaches you about loving.
                      Namaste',
                          Dena
May 15, 2016


Thursday, March 17, 2016

I HAVE THIS POSTED ON MY CAR VISOR TO REMIND ME DAILY:

T   IS IT TRUE?
H   IS IT HELPFUL?
 I   IS IT INSPIRING?
N   IS IT NECESSARY?
K   IS IT KIND?

March 17, 2016

Thursday, March 12, 2015



KEEPING A JOURNAL

SOME THINGS TO PONDER


A student of mine suggested I keep a journal, so a week ago, I began. It has helped me to focus on the here and now and on the important things in my life. Here are some of my insights:

I consider myself very blessed. I have good health, good friends, a roof over my head and enough money in the bank. And, especially,  I have loving and warm children and grand- children.  I am sometimes not kind to them. I talk before I think. (foot and mouth disease)I did this to my daughter last week and it bothered me a lot. So I called her and apologized. She was pleased that I had. 
I have a saying in my car on my visor that is: 
                         T   Is it True
                         H   Is it Helpful
                          I    Is it Inspiring
                         N    Is it Necessary
                         K    Is it Kind
I will post those around my house to remind me.

Then, I was inspired by one of my yoga teachers to pay more attention to all my students and take my ego out of my teaching and just teach. Always wanting to expand ways of appealing to more people. I am a teacher. I love to teach, but without students, I cannot teach. I have, for years, been expounding on the Iyengar emphasis of quality, not quantity. Doing one thing right instead of doing many things wrong. And this is how G-d laughs. He/she has given me wonderful quality in my students, (and I am grateful), but not the quantity I now need to stop running around so much.  I’m looking for more people to come to me in my home. 

Another day, while talking with a new friend, I came to see that I want to leave this life like I came into it; loving and open to learning without losing my mental faculties.

Please share.

Dena Glazer
Certified Iyengar Teacher
Licensed Massage Therapist
786-253-3060
Sunrise, FL